Miscellaneous (En) Archives - Dragos Savulescu

Facebook Status - February 24, 2015

Dragos Savulescu — Tue, 24 Feb 2015 12:18:04 +0000

A man is never happy, he spends his entire life struggling to achive something he thinks it will make him happy; he rarely achieves his goal, and when he does he gets nothing but a big disappointment: happiness last half a moment. Chasing happiness, in time he becomes a wreck, and then it doesn’t even matter how happy or unhappy he was. His happiness never lasted for more than a moment, which has always disappeared. Moreover, he realizes the achievement of this state too late, when the moment is already gone.

People, in general, perceive happiness after they achieve some material things, or when they have certain psychological, emotional or physical satisfaction, caused mainly by the release of endorphins. Starting from the obvious idea that happiness is a state generated by our own mind, own brain through own sensations and feelings, then any man may be able to achieve happiness through the exercise of the mind, from the inside. Consequently, at least in theory, the human mind is able to set itself on the mode of living at a very high level of feeling, compatible with the condition that we call ‘happiness’. We are able to be happy and to perceive happiness focusing only on this idea, practicing, by self-suggestion, playing all the information, without actually depending on anything from the outside.

It seems that in order to achieve happiness, the most important thing is training our mind in this regard.

Facebook Status - January 21st, 2015

Dragos Savulescu — Wed, 21 Jan 2015 19:24:39 +0000

       When we find a person we consider interesting, attractive and compatible and especially when there are certain feelings, big mistakes may occur. We raise people a lot in our minds. We become blind and raise them up on pedestals. Much higher than they actually are. We react unnaturally in their presence, we change our behavior and we make childish gestures. We raise them too much when they actually are nothing but normal people, if we look objectively. We are blind to their faults, serious sometimes, because we mentally cancel them all. That’s because instinctively we are in search of the ideal that we want to find in that person, although most likely in reality that person is not and will never be even close to that ideal. Everything is a dream created by our own mind, artificially, in order to feed our soul. It is an illusion we built, because in its turn it creates the perfection that we naturally want. In reality, perfection does not exist!
       And in all this mental process we can forget about ourselves or about our value. Becoming aware of your value in the light of cold dawn, by comparison, it is a mistake to ”give so much credit” to people who, with all due care, might never come to perceive the level of your thoughts or feelings. And many other things … Even if they shine on the outside. And ironically, the attention you give them can sometimes create for them a sense of superiority unjustified in any way, based solely on the ground of your desire or curiosity. And nine times out of ten, instead of attracting, the opposite effect occurs. Psychologically, the attention offered makes the man look elsewhere, to other conquests, where there is challenge. Because he considers you steady, anytime present, already conquered.
       It’s a situation that most people often faced. And there were many unhappy endings, especially when the mental constructions were in one sense. The only problem is that when you stay perfectly conscious and you do not provide that ‘credit’ of false value, which actually impresses and attracts you the most, you are off that person. Hmm …

Facebook Status - July 8th, 2013

Dragos Savulescu — Mon, 08 Jul 2013 14:01:18 +0000

How strange it is to observe deep things … and then to want to share them with someone … then to realize there is nobody to share them to, because they will not be understood, and people are too busy with their daily odds and ends to give them the attention they actually deserve. It is strange to not even have time to tell them, because time passes by with incredible speed and you do not have time to do many things, much less to communicate with one near you. And then to understand that you don’t even have to do it, because people are too busy ‘to live the moment’ than to understand the depth of life…
And when someone says these things though, it seems awkward in the huge shallow…
And finally, after have said them, to get to regret that you have.
It’s just a thought, late in the night. Which, of course, has no place on Facebook. And yet… Good night.

Facebook Status - March 29th, 2013

Dragos Savulescu — Fri, 29 Mar 2013 14:59:39 +0000

Have you noticed that people actually remain the same? I realized recently that most people remain absolutely the same life. They have the same habits, the same ideas, the same weaknesses, the same way to proceed, the same way to relax, the same ‘horseshit’-ah, how embarrassing!, the same reactions, the same ‘inurements’- the leopard changes only his spots :D-, the same concerns, the same tastes, etc., etc.- how boring !! There are very, very few people have the strength to change their existence, to reinvent themselves, to truly evolve, to totally change their lives and to overcome their limits! Looking around at the people I know, I see that clearly… And this makes me think and it also saddens me. Because as a matter of fact, I see no evolution.

Facebook Status - March 4th, 2013

Dragos Savulescu — Mon, 04 Mar 2013 14:59:52 +0000

I just read a few articles and reviews about some persons who are really special to me, people I know, who have real value and who have succeeded in life.
I see regularly people’s viciousness and frustrations for those who have succeeded. Many such frustrations are revealed through the press. It throws mud and venom in those who obviously are above the rest, in many respects: image, beauty, brilliance, charisma, socially, financially, intellectually, etc. Or who simply are different; in a way that most people cannot be. This ‘sport’ is practiced for two reasons: it meets the frustration of those who actually do it and it satisfies the frustration of most readers, attracting audiences. And for some years, any bitter illiterate or any stressed gal can comment on the internet and can even offend, throwing dirt in its turn, and even insults. On those sites nobody is cleaning among them or at least among their posts. This suits everyone, for they feed themselves with it.
They fail to understand that those who succeeded have something, from somewhere, that they don’t have, nor will they ever have. Perhaps because, instead of being focused on their own development, their own life, the main concern of these people lies in the denigration of those around them, of those who have succeeded.
Unfortunately, it is a general phenomenon. But very, very much enhanced around here….

Facebook Status - September 16th, 2012

Dragos Savulescu — Sun, 16 Sep 2012 13:58:57 +0000

These days I realized how serious and dangerous routine is. And how it leads to self-limitation. And how many people encounter this problem. Due to the job they have, or to the shortcomings, or due to coziness or the inability to get out of it. Or simply due to a lifestyle that remains the same for a long time. It goes hand in hand with the lack of desire or capacity for development, with no cultural, educational or style accumulations. With the lack of new aspirations. Then boredom shows up. You get bored of you, of your life, of your partner. And your partner gets bored of you, as well as of your life together. Routine and self-limitation kill the individual and the couple. And even more when only one partner wants to grow, to change, and to evolve. And he manages to really do it.
Therefore all people are bound to change. In good. Continuously change their lives. To evolve. On as many levels as possible. And to not forget that, not even for a moment…

Facebook Status - September 10th, 2012

Dragos Savulescu — Mon, 10 Sep 2012 13:57:52 +0000

Perfectly aware that I will create debates or attract dislikes, I am troubled by a set of questions which, although it may be limited to a single rhetorical question, I will ask the ladies, now live on Facebook: What is in a woman’s head when she gives herself to a man, then to another, then to another, then to another, etc, etc, etc, etc…? Doesn’t she realize at all that actually her moral, social level, her intrinsic quality, decreases in direct proportion to the number of men whom she had? Doesn’t she realize that she is not worth it in the eyes of a respectable and exigent man and he loses his interest in her? Isn’t it clear though that since forever, but especially nowadays, it has become a real virtue of the woman to give herself to as few men as possible? From my point of view, the reality is distressing … Or maybe I have a problem of understanding and I should not get the hilarious saying of a friend’s father about a woman who had many men: “No, she is not an easy woman, she had poor luck …”