Facebook Status - January 21st, 2015

       When we find a person we consider interesting, attractive and compatible and especially when there are certain feelings, big mistakes may occur. We raise people a lot in our minds. We become blind and raise them up on pedestals. Much higher than they actually are. We react unnaturally in their presence, we change our behavior and we make childish gestures. We raise them too much when they actually are nothing but normal people, if we look objectively. We are blind to their faults, serious sometimes, because we mentally cancel them all. That’s because instinctively we are in search of the ideal that we want to find in that person, although most likely in reality that person is not and will never be even close to that ideal. Everything is a dream created by our own mind, artificially, in order to feed our soul. It is an illusion we built, because in its turn it creates the perfection that we naturally want. In reality, perfection does not exist!
       And in all this mental process we can forget about ourselves or about our value. Becoming aware of your value in the light of cold dawn, by comparison, it is a mistake to ”give so much credit” to people who, with all due care, might never come to perceive the level of your thoughts or feelings. And many other things … Even if they shine on the outside. And ironically, the attention you give them can sometimes create for them a sense of superiority unjustified in any way, based solely on the ground of your desire or curiosity. And nine times out of ten, instead of attracting, the opposite effect occurs. Psychologically, the attention offered makes the man look elsewhere, to other conquests, where there is challenge. Because he considers you steady, anytime present, already conquered.
       It’s a situation that most people often faced. And there were many unhappy endings, especially when the mental constructions were in one sense. The only problem is that when you stay perfectly conscious and you do not provide that ‘credit’ of false value, which actually impresses and attracts you the most, you are off that person. Hmm …